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AGEING AND DEATH
- For every human being, believers or atheists, death is a heavy hardship,
almost unacceptable. We are all thirsty for life! Our existence acquires
a human quality through our family ties and the richness of our relationships.
Jesus did not explain death. He faced death, with some anguish but, above
all, with confidence and love. "Father, I place my soul in your hands!".
A love that rejects no one.
Is Death, the ultimate phase, the door through which one enters into
the following stage or is it but a mere last phase of life? Is it not or
can it not be the moment of change that crowns life? Death and the conditions
under which we live this certainty will remain a mystery. The meaning of
this last stage or our life belongs solely to us.
When we look back, old age is when we confront ourselves, when we become
conscious of a certain principle which is our way of being. Time and things
become irrelevant. The moment when, looking back at our way of life, we
try to improve ourselves. This is why, if the retrospect is accepted, this
becomes a phase of decantation, of confrontation with the essential, of
reaching consensus with oneself and with the values that have guided our
choices.
The quality of the relationship and the inner intensity walk hand in
hand. Old age favours a profound study of oneself and, at the same time
the learning of the importance of the relationship. We exist to be together.
The profound truth arising from the ageing changes acquires an even more
profound importance through the shared confidence and communion of the same
fundamental values. The action is less imperative, our life revolves around
the person and the life that has been lived together.
The increasing dependency of the old person and of the dying, instead
of becoming a loss may indeed have a positive significance. For the "believers",
it is clearly a manner of living in the grace of God. For this last phase,
what best can we take with us than an unlimited faith? Our actions, our
fights, our choices, our failures may give us a perspective of what our
life was. Although for us believers, what is indeed important is to place
our Faith in God, where the plenitude of love exists to be revealed.
The prospect of death will restore the quality and the coherence of the
present life: a more or less serene acceptance of a definite personal end
or the hope of a life after death, to once again be in the presence of those
who departed before and the expectation of finally finding a happy life. |